I have loved doing this blog over the past couple of months but I have to move to more pressing issues in my life and career. In trying to Change the World I need to begin taking more action which is what I plan to do.

I am going to have this post up for a few days with a final message.

Look outside yourself. I have written many posts on being introverted or extroverted and various charities, groups and organizations; about character and humanity; about people and the way the world interacts with you and you the world.

My idea I want to present to you now is to see the extroversion inside of you (isn’t that a contradictory statement). I have said before that there are people who can travel the world and be in incredible places and experiences and not even look outside themselves.

The reason I love to stare up at the stars or watch the sun rise and set is because it reminds me of my place in the universe. I am nothing without those around me as far reaching as the other side of the world. A person is nothing without other people. To look only within yourself is to not except the power and importance of those who you may not even know.

To live solely for yourself is vain but to live for yourself and the world is empowering. Helping those outside your own comfort zone actually has benefits for all, including yourself. The Golden Rule is called golden for a reason.

As I sit here outside by a fire, after having a long-and-great conversation with an old friend who just left (came to keep me company while I am sick), I remember the most important aspect of my life is other people. Without them life would be meaningless so to devote myself to others brings me great and fulfilling Life Meaning.

I say tomorrow, you wake up and do your usual routine. Drink your coffee; tread mill for fifteen minutes; whatever. But then during that day I want you to try something. Try following an old rule of the Boy Scouts and do a good deed for someone else in that day. A good turn for someone else in the long run is a good turn for the world and yourself.

It does not have to be a great and powerful showing to your fellow man but a simple gesture of selflessness can bring a great change if done enough by enough people. It could even Change the World.

To keep up with me in the future head over to my personal blog WarrenGreeley.com/Blog to read my future posts. They are on topics of business, writing, and generally trying to change the world.

Thank you for reading. Thanks for caring.

Yesterday I wrote a post called “ask questions?” that addressed excellent strategy when talking to new people in business or your personal life. Today I want to move back even further to communication with complete strangers that is not meant to form relationship.

When you are in a public facility there will be many situations that need communication and yet the majority of people are too afraid to say even the simplest things to strangers like “Hello” or “Excuse me” that would benefit tremendously.

When I was am in a public place I always get a chuckle out of seeing people just stand and wait for someone to move out of the way when it would be so easy to just say “Excuse me” and end the dilemma.

So why are people like this? From what I can gather people are just generally afraid of what is unknown to them. This includes new places, new environments, and especially new faces. This is just natural behavior for some people but can cause them much grief in simple situations with strangers.

The key I have found useful is to be conscious of this when in a new place or a place that there are new people. Your urge to not talk to new people is a subconscious attribute and can be overcome simply by thinking about it as a situation may present itself.

Using this simple technique can allow you to be more conscious in your day, avoid simple problems, and even maybe spark a good conversation with someone new.

When I meet a new person I try not to talk too much. If I do I end up talking about myself and not really finding out about the person I have recently formed acquaintance with. This is a problem I see with a lot of people so I thought I would throw an alternative suggestion into the mix. You don’t build a connection by boasting about yourself. Being a listener is a great way to form stronger bonds with new people and this can be set as a strategy for building personal and/or professional relationships.

It is really easy to do but oddly enough it does take some practice. The trick of sparking conversation and keeping it going is by asking questions that will lead to more questions.

Here is a little secret. (pretend I am whispering). People love talking about themselves. As I mentioned earlier in this post I am no exception to that rule but to really impress someone, you should be on the listening side of the conversation. Everyone is doing the next big thing but what will really shock a new person is for you to want to know what they are doing and who they are.

Start out by asking a question that will get an answer you know will lead to another question (could be more detail or a tangent on the subject). Once you begin and the story gets more in depth it is easier to tangent into more questions towards the new person you are talking to. The new friend will really enjoy how much you are taking interest in them.

Side note: This is a great strategy to use on the women or men you are interested in too.

Once the conversation gets rolling, continuing to use this strategy will become easier and easier and you will be able to learn much more about the person you are meeting, build a beneficial relationship with them (business, social, or both), and you may just get a free drink out of it too.

What is the point of holding a grudge? How is it making your life better? What can you do to change the course for the better?

These are questions I try to ask myself when I have been hurt by someone. I understand that people make mistakes but sometime mistakes are so grave that it is hard to forgive. In this case though, forgiveness may sometimes be the best and only way to bring yourself back to a place of peace.

So how do you know if you can forgive? Forgiveness is crucial in keeping your relationships together but when do you draw the line?

Here is what I try to ponder to answer these questions…

Think long and hard. Most of the time you have been wronged it is easy to forget how important that person is to you. If you really think about it then you will realize that sometime it could end the better good in the relationship by not forgiving.

Try to reason. When you do not think about it as you should your emotions take over reason and you may end up with revenge on your mind or hate in your heart. Emotions are part of what make us humans but can also lead us to do great and terrible things. Take the time to add reason in your decision.

Talk with the person you trust most. If you have someone in your life you can talk to about it whether it be your best friend, mother, sibling then do so. If this same person is the one who wronged you then go to someone else you can trust. Talking it out can lead to making a more rational decision.

Confront the person. In the calmest state possible you must talk to the person. Communication is the key to any type of relationship. Give them a chance to explain and if they cannot justify their actions just give them a chance to apologize. Whether they can admit being wrong should be a big part of your decision.

Forgive but do not forget. When you forgive someone you do not have to become once again ignorant to possibilities. Remember what has happened to be cautious but do not let it affect your daily relationship with that person. If you become paranoid about what could be then the relationship is doomed to fail. Remembering but not assuming the actions will take place again is very important.

Trust again. This is one a lot of people will not agree with. But if you do not learn to trust that person again in spite of their action the relationship will not work. Trust is key in any bond whether an intimate, friendly, or family relationship.

Use logic in your decision to forgive. In my experience there are very few things in this world not worthy of forgiveness. The rest are less important than the relationships you have with those close to you. Everybody makes mistakes, including you, so do not let your emotions get in the way of your relationships. Forgiveness is something only us humans have the rational ability to do. Use it to keep your peace of mind.

In marketing this blog I have been trying a bunch of new things. One concept I have been trying that I learned from John Chow’s Make Money Online Blog was to use simple business cards place in local public forums.

So I mustered up my amazing graphic design skill and went to work on a simple design for a Blog for Squares business card. I even printed them myself because I do not have a marketing budget and then chose locations to put them.

What I found was that having a nice business card is not enough. Even though it looked great it did not stand out to the many people who came within view of it. So I decided to up my strategy with a simple technique to make it more noticeable.

I took a simple sheet of paper and wrote in orange highlighter the frase “Please take one… It won’t bite.” Just this simple attachment to my display made all the difference. By the day’s end I had checked if it worked and the cards were all gone!

Simple things that can make you stand out, no matter how rediculous or uncessary they may seem. It can make all the difference. Whether it is your business, your new blog, trying to find a significant other, or what ever else you are trying to accomplish; a little creativity to make yourself stand out can make a huge difference.

This is not necessarily an out of the ordinary thought or post but it is something that needs to be addressed. It’s hard for me to write about being so close a topic to me but I must speak my mind.

It seems that a lot of people in our country focus on a particular problem and try to fix it in their own ways. This has many benefits but also some downfalls. There seems to be a great disturbance in our society that is forgotten about with many people. What I am talking about is domestic violence.

All through out history women and children have been treated as inferior or lowly compared to the man of the house. When this happens, some men take advantage of their family and loved ones like they are property instead of the equals as they should be. This trend has to stop. Now.

My family has been torn apart by this. It has been a trend that has gone on for generations. My grandmother’s mother, my grandmother, my mom and her sister have all been mistreated and abused by the ones who claimed to love them. This is wrong. I lived my childhood experiencing things no child should like so many others have. I was never physically hurt myself but the pain my family felt was almost more than I could bare.

This is not something we as humans should be doing to eachother. The statistics show over 80% of men who abuse came from an abusive household. That means that I, statistically am 80% likely to be abusive myself. That is scary.

Now, anyone who knows me knows I am a very peaceful person and know I am not like that but so many are and it needs to stop now. This is the generation to do it. We are breaking new ground on equality, finding cures for diseases among so much else and we need to show we are intelligent enough to not lower ourselves to the level of a brute animal.

To the woman or children in this situation. I beg you to leave it. Any one who treats you like this does not respect you or see you as equal. They most likely will not change. That is just how it is. You need to care more about yourself than the person who treats you that way. You deserve love without pain.

To the men of the world. Now is your time to end it. This is our generation and our world now. What we do will define what happens in the next generation. I want you to promise yourself, promise your loved ones, promise God if you have to that you will not abuse, demean, or mistreat the women and children that make this world so beautiful.

I want to here your stories. If you have one related to this topic please leave a comment or if you do not want it to be public, contact me with the form on this site in the contact section. Any submissions requested to keep private will never be read or spoken of to any other person besides me. I promise that. (It’s up to you if you want to trust me).

Stop the chain. Now is the time.